Typically when we’re under stress and feeling burdened by challenges in our lives, we respond by giving more of ourselves. We work more, sleep less, stop exercising, and forego our healthy eating habits. Right? We all do it. And while it’s sometimes necessary in crisis to shift focus and pay less attention to our own needs, habitual self-neglect leads to resentment, emotional distance from our partners, and loss of sexual intimacy. Not to mention utter exhaustion which isn’t good for you or anyone else in your life.
That’s why a little selfishness, or better put self-care, is essential for your own well-being and the well-being of your relationships. No matter how busy or hectic or overwhelming life gets, you have to put yourself first when it comes to:
- Eating healthy
- Self-care activities
- Connecting with your partner
I’m sure we all struggle with at least one of these areas when we’re stressed. Heck, I struggle with some of these areas all the time. But it’s important to remind ourselves that taking an hour out of our day to exercise or a break from work to read or get a manicure or do something creative will ultimately benefit us–not hurt us–in the long run. Moreover, it will benefit our relationships as well.